3 Things That Will Run Your Wedding Vendors Away

In the world of weddings, there are a lot of details to finalize and many people to deal with. It can get out of hand if you, as a bride, don’t have things in order. There are a lot of DIY brides out there and I respect them so much. I have serviced a few DIYers and I honestly don’t know how they do it. They have to order several things, work with many businesses, make things for the wedding, and pay for many things as well. Just as brides have a lot to do, see, pay for, and manage, so does the wedding professionals hired to bring their visions to life.


Wedding professionals are not only working more than one wedding, they have expenses and vendors to work with as well to make every wedding a success. There are three things I am certain that makes vendors look the other way when working with potential clients:


Serial inquiries

As I’ve stated, I know that there are several things that are happening behind the scenes. There will be some business relationships that won’t happen, but several small inquiries is a red flag to vendors. I am not talking about generic quotes and such, but multiple inquiries in one day about things that should have gone in one email is what I am talking about. Another example is emailing or calling at disrespectful times during the morning and at night about things that should have been discussed in an email or initially.


What this says to the vendor is that you are unorganized and will possibly be a difficult person to work with. This also means if you’re a difficult person to work with, there will be issues on your wedding day and may result in bad reviews of service. Because we aim to keep a healthy brand image, it is important to work with couples who will allow a mutually beneficial experience.


Price picking

This is definitely one of my pet peeves. Price picking is trying to negotiate a vendor’s set prices to match your expectation or budget. I hear this all the time in the wedding industry. This is really simple to handle. If you can’t or dislike the stated fees, you go elsewhere.


It’s similar to a restaurant experience. If you decide to try a new restaurant, you’d probably look them up online to see what they serve and how much they charge. If not, you’ll visit them to look at their menu and make a decision on whether or not you’ll pay their fees. You won’t call the owner or the cook to ask them why their prices are so high or try to get ⅓ of the meal for ⅓ of the price.


Your wedding vendors should be treated with the same respect. Some couples may own a business. They should definitely understand why this creates a bad relationship from beginning. There’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes besides showing up to perform on the wedding day. Proficiency and effectiveness can have a tremendous impact on timing for your wedding. That is included in the price you’re paying. It’s not about only slapping on some makeup and pinning hair. It’s not about taking photos or baking a cake. There are supplies to buy, editing to do, and teams to hire. Keep it simple. Either it works or it doesn’t.



Things change, I get that. So does other wedding professionals as well. This is a common issue with many couples because of budget or simply a change in preference. However, it is still a red flag when there are way too many changes, especially if there is a lack of communication as these changes happen.


Here are a few tips I would love to share that both weddings pros and couples would appreciate:

For wedding pros:

  • Have clear booking instructions on your website and welcome packages

  • Create a FAQ document or web page on your site to send potential clients too

  • Set policies and expectations in place immediately


For brides:

  • Know your budget and stick to it

  • Avoid going back and forth with a wedding vendor because you don’t agree with their prices. It is a waste of everyone’s time.

  • Bring a few options so that your wedding professional can help you make a decision

I understand that some circumstances happen because of lack of communication on the professional’s part. If this is the case, it’s the bride’s duty to use discretion and choose not to work with this type of professional. It’s also the bride’s duty to approach, address, and work with wedding vendors without being “that couple” that no one wants to work with. I say all of these things with love. Just remember that pros talk. Avoid running your dream vendors away and make sure you’re the couple everyone loves to work with!